Friday, April 23, 2010

Lovin' da Local Lingo

I’ve fallen for the St. Thomas vernacular.

While it’s sometimes still hard to understand locals when they talk to each other, working in the coffee shop has helped me grasp the island accent, lingo, and speech patterns more quickly than I might have otherwise.

The island language is loose and easy—ending consonants are often dropped and words run together or are left out entirely, especially when stateside people don’t need to understand. The pitch of the words flows up and down, as if tracing the hills and valleys of the island’s topography. Th’s are replaced by “t” or “d” as in “tick” for “thick” or “da” for “the.” Often a couple words are rearranged from ther formal English order. I notice this more in interrogative statements. As in, “What time it is?” or “What dis is?” For instance, I often hear in the coffee shop, “I could have a dumbread and cheese?” At first, this flip flop seems just plain wrong, but it soon grows charming. Especially because t’s are pronounced very sharply, adding a graceful staccato to the melody of words.

And, as in any local dialect, there are rules to be followed.

I’ve mentioned this before, but it’s an important enough part of local etiquette to be mentioned again. And that is greeting people according to the time of day: Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening, Good Night, and Good Day are the proper salutations. Though people often drop the “Good” and just go with the “Morning” or “Afternoon.” It’s quite nice when someone walks into a doctor’s waiting room, and says “Ahfta-noon,” to the group gathered, and most people respond, “Afternoon,” in a harmony of accents.

It takes some time to get used to doing this constantly, but after a bit of practice it becomes second nature. I must say, I have come to enjoy this social custom. Greeting the people you approach, to acknowledge their existence on this planet, rather than averting eye contact to avoid having to say anything, is a rather pleasant and connecting experience.

Another lovely aspect of the local dialect is the abundance of affectionate terms such as, “hon,” “sweetheart,” or the Spanish-influenced, “mame'”. It makes you feel just plain cared for and valued when someone tacks “honey” or “baby” on the end of a sentence directed toward you. People also tend to use the titles Ms. and Mr. more frequently than I hear in the Midwest.

Here’s an example from my life:

A taxi driver—one of our regulars—approaches the counter.

“Good Morning, Mr. J-----,” I say, “How are you today?”

“I am blessed, sweethawt, tank you. An’ I can tell dat you ladies are blessed as well from da smiles on yah beauttiful faces.”

And if he’s feeling generous, he will buy coffee for the ladies sitting up front. The ones who commune at R&J’s every morning before going to work in one of the jewelry stores downtown.

There’s an affectionate quality to the interactions that I don’t remember experiencing back home.

It’s funny that I’m writing this because when I first moved to the island, I was bothered and intimidated by how rude people can be. This is a complaint made by many who live here, transplants and island-cultivated alike. Sometimes clerks won’t make eye contact or even speak to you at places like Kmart or Pueblo. This doesn’t bother me as much as it used to because I’ve found that if you speak to people as if they’re real people and not just the roles they play (cashier, receptionist, etc.), they will often respond in kind. And if they don’t, you can’t take it personally because it’s just one of those things about living on St. Thomas. And the hospitality that can occur here is so genuine and generous that it makes up for any rudeness you may encounter.

Safari Bus Wisdom.

Thursday, April 15, 2010

On Spirituality and Religion, Part 4: Why Claiming to be Spiritual but not Religious Goes Beyond Glib Identification

During a recent episode of Speaking of Faith, host Krista Tippett asked guest Robert Wright his opinion on the increasingly popular “trend” of people professing to be spiritual, but not religious. I perceived an attitude from both parties that this is sort of a laughable cliché espoused by the superficial.

And I suppose Mr. Seversen would agree.

But I disagree. And I disagree, strongly.

People describe their spiritual life in this manner for reasons that run much deeper than trendiness and ease. We connect more with our global community every day, allowing us to discover that our own religion doesn’t hold the only truth that resonates within us. We identify less with the constructs of religion yet still feel the presence of a higher power in our lives. We feel the current of a larger, Universal truth running beneath our everyday reality. We’ve been exposed to numerous religious and spiritual traditions, and are able to glean what works for us to create a personal spirituality.

I find nothing silly or cliché about this so-called trend. I actually find it rather hopeful that we are beginning to see beyond the doctrines of our particular religions to the Universal beliefs at the core of most traditions. Our minds are opening, and so are our hearts.

When the topic of one’s religious or spiritual life enters the conversation, how should people respond who are nonreligious, but believe in life beyond the physical? Something to the tune of “Well, I believe in a Higher Power, but not the kind of god I learned about growing up…I guess you could say I’m spiritual, but not religious,” doesn’t sound shallow or faddish to me. It certainly requires more thought than saying, “I’m Catholic,” or “I’m a Muslim,” or, “I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints,"

Let’s look at two definitions for the terms in discussion, courtesy of dictionary.com:

Religion.
#1: “a set of beliefs concerning the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, esp. when considered as the creation of a superhuman agency or agencies, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs.”

Spirituality.
#2: “of or pertaining to the spirit or soul, as distinguished from the physical nature: a spiritual approach to life.’

While this definition of spirituality is certainly concise, I think it nicely encapsulates my own spiritual life. In regard  to religion, I suppose the spirituality I’ve described in these last few posts does contain a vague set of beliefs regarding the cause, nature, and purpose of the Universe. But it’s definitely fluid and open in nature. I have no name for it, no sacred text, and no religious leader, or set of practices to follow. My moral code consists of the golden rule.

Does what I describe sound like religion to you?

How do you describe yourself spiritually?

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

On Spirituality and Religion, Part 3: Statement of Faith

By their very nature, spiritual beliefs are difficult to verbalize. Ironically, in being articulated and thus distilled to a level of human understanding, their spiritual essence is removed. Which is probably why I avoided this part of my spirituality series, if I may call it such. Following is my attempt to articulate the ineffable. Per usual, I use more words than necessary.

Everything is connected.
Humans. Animals. Plants. Weather. Oceans. Nature. Politics. Wars. Diseases. Miracles. Violence. Love.
Everything. Everything. Is. Connected.

What appears to be many is actually one.
Which is why everything is connected.
It really is One Love, mon.
God is the one. Everything else, the many.
So whether we realize it or not, we are one with God or Goddess or Source or Allah. God doesn’t care the name we use.

Living beings have souls—an eternal essence of who we are existing beyond life and death, time and space. We can always access this part of our being, although it is extremely hard for most of us to do. Meditation quiets and stills our human minds so we can chill with our eternal, peaceful soul for awhile.

We live more than one life on this, and perhaps other, earths.

Our time on earth is an opportunity for our souls to grow and evolve.

Heaven and hell do not exist in the traditional manner. We may experience an expected version of heaven or hell after we die, but it is neither for reward nor punishment, neither is it an eternal state.

What we offer to the world is offered back to us.
We often refer to this as karma.

Our inner experience is mirrored in our outer world. If you feel shitty about yourself and believe others are out to get you, your experience will certainly confirm it.


The Golden Rule is cool…
Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
I will go further and say that
In a larger sense, which we may not readily perceive,
What we do unto others, we also do unto ourselves.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

Tropical Tidbit: A Delightful Grocery Store Encounter

I'm in the produce department at Plaza Extra when I run into one of the bank tellers from next door to the coffee shop. I like this woman; she has flair and personality.

We greet one another, and I say hi to her little girl who looks to be about four years old. I ask the child her name, and she plays shy, moving her lips inaudibly.

Her mother looks amused and only slightly exasperated.

"Go on, baby, tell her your name. This is my friend, it's okay."

Again, she moves her lips, but I hear nothing.

Her mom looks at me with the same amused, slightly exasperated look.

"Her name is Star, but she said Baby Genius. She doesn't want to be called Star anymore, she wants to be called Baby Genius now."

The girl just looks at me with the same shy expression on her face.

"That's fantastic!" I say, "I can think of a lot worse nicknames."

Her mom smiles and sighs, "I guess I'm going to have to nickname her Baby Genius or something."

How absolutely, wonderfully precocious. Baby Genius made my day.